In 1983 , a talented young guitarist was kicked out of his band in a worst possible way . The band had just been signed to a record deal, and they were about to record their first album. But a couple of days before recording began , the band showed the guitarist the door – no warning , no discussion , no dramatic blowout ; they literally woke him up one day by handing him a bus ticket home.
As he sat on the bus back to los Angeles from New York , the guitarist kept asking himself : How did this happen ? What did i do wrong ? What will i do now ?
But by the time the bus Hit LA , the guitarist had gotten over his self-pity and had vowed to start a new band . He decided that this new band would be so successful
that his old band would forever regret their decision.
He would become so famous that they would be subjected to decades of seeing him on TV , hearing him on radio , seeing posters of him in the streets and pictures of him in magazines.

They’d be flipping burgers somewhere , loading vans from their shitty club gigs, fat and drunk with their ugly wives and he’d be rocking out in front of stadium crowds live on television.

And so the guitarist worked as if possessed by a musical demon . He spent months recruiting the best musicians he could find – far better musicians than his previous band mates.
He wrote dozens of songs and practiced religiously . His seething anger fuelled his ambition : revenge became his muse. within a couple of years his new band had signed a record deal of their own, and year after that , their first record go Gold.
The guitarist name was Dave Mustaine and the new band he formed was the legendary heavy-metal band “Megadeth”. Megadeth would go on to sell over 25 million albums and tour the world many times over.
Today , Mustaine is considered one of the most brilliant and influential musicians in the history of heavy – metal music.

This real writeup didn’t end here but infact lesson starts from here..

Unfortunately, the band he was kicked out of was “Metallica” , which sold much more albums than Megadeth & went on the record 180 million albums worldwide.
Metallica is considered by many to be one of the greatest rock bands of all time.

And because of this, in rare intimate interview in 2003 , a tearful Mustaine admitted that he couldn’t help but still consider himself failure. Despite all accolades, wealth, fame that he had accomplished , in his mind he would always be the guy who got kicked out of Metallica .

We’re apes. We think we’re all sophisticated with our toaster ovens and designer footwear , but we’re just a bunch of finely ornamental apes. And because we are apes , we instinctually measure ourselves against others and vie for status.

Dave Mustaine , whether he realised it or not , chose to measure himself by whether he was more successful and popular than Metallica.
The experience of getting thrown out of his former band was so painful for him that he adopted “success relative to Metallica” as the metric by which to measure himself and his music career.

Despite taking a horrible event in his life and making something positive out of it , as Mustaine did with Megadeth his choice to hold on to Metallicas success as his life-defining metric continued to hurt him decades later.

Despite all the money and the fans and the accolades , he still considered himself a failure.

Now , you and I may look at Dave Mustaine’s situation and laugh. Here’s this guy with millions of dollars , hundreds of thousands of adoring fans , a career doing the things he loves best , and still he’s getting all weepy-eyed that his rock star buddies from twenty years ago are way more famous than he is.

This is because You & I have different values than Mustaine does, and we measure ourselves by different metrics.
Our metrics are probably like ” I dont want to work a Job for a boss I hate” or “I’d like to earn enough money to sent my kid to a good school”.
So our values determine the metrics by which we measure ourselves and everyone else. Mustaine’s metric of being better than metallica likely helped him launch an incredibly successful music career. But that same metric later tortured him in spite of his success.
If you want to change how you see your problems , you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure / success.
Values & metric that you hold dear leads to good problems that are easily and regularly solved but it also leads to bad problems that are not easily solved.

Watch-out your value – system for solving your professional & personal problems.